These days, one could argue, successful co-parenting is more important than ever. As children and teens get ready to head back to school they will once again be spending a large portion of their days away from you, their parent and instead be in the company of friends, other students and outside influences.
Defensiveness is a common and normal reaction in difficult conversations. Often, both people are defensive to some degree. But, as natural as defensiveness can be, it can lead to a cycle of back and forth defensiveness that takes you in a never-ending circle of arguments.
When parents who are separating come to Family Mediation, often, the number one issue that needs to be resolved is Parenting Time. In other words, the schedule you will follow for when your children spend time with each parent. The schedule you create will lay the ground work for other pieces of your overall Parenting Plan such as Parent Responsibilities and Child Support. Here are 5 things to consider when creating your Parenting Schedule.
Whether you’ve got your Separation Agreement in hand or you’re still working toward getting it done, there is a lot to think about when you are going through the separation process. So here’s a helpful list of practical things that need to get done. It can feel overwhelming. So just choose one or two things a day to accomplish and before you know it, you’ll have got it all done.
Have you noticed that since you’ve mentioned you and your partner are separating that everyone and their dog suddenly seems to know EXACTLY WHAT YOU SHOULD DO?! I hear it in conversations and see it online all the time. It usually starts with “You know what you should do?” Followed by the answer to what is clearly a rhetorical question because they already have the answer for you.
We can probably all admit to a time when we contemplated things we would like to do to someone who has hurt us or made us to suffer in some way. Whether it’s keying someone’s car or ruining their reputation in a Facebook rant, the idea of exacting revenge can feel sweet. In separation and divorce the need for revenge can be overwhelming! Sweet, sweet revenge!
The amount of pressure we put on Christmas to provide us with a picture perfect family moment is crazy! It’s as if we expect all of our family relationships to suddenly transform into the stuff that holiday movies are made of.
In our every day conversations we ask others a lot of “closed” questions. Closed questions are ones that only require a “yes” or “no” answer. Yes or no really doesn’t give us much information and we’re often missing out on crucial pieces of info that could help us to resolve something.
If you have teens in your house then I’m sure you’ve had at least a few moments of frustration. Those moments of frustration have likely, in some cases, lead to conflict between you and your teen. Wouldn’t it be great to have a few tricks up your sleeve to deal with these conflicts more effectively?
After separation one of the first things parents often tackle is their parenting schedule, meaning, how much time will the kids spend with each parent. When asked why they have set up a schedule in a particular way parents often talk about the kids’ activities, work schedules and school schedules.