5 Things to Consider When Creating Your Parenting Plan in Separation

When parents who are separating come to Family Mediation, often, the number one issue that needs to be resolved is Parenting Time. In other words, the schedule you will follow for when your children spend time with each parent. The schedule you create will lay the ground work for other pieces of your overall Parenting Plan such as Parent Responsibilities and Child Support. Here are 5 things to consider when creating your Parenting Schedule.

Your Separation Checklist

Whether you’ve got your Separation Agreement in hand or you’re still working toward getting it done, there is a lot to think about when you are going through the separation process. So here’s a helpful list of practical things that need to get done. It can feel overwhelming. So just choose one or two things a day to accomplish and before you know it, you’ll have got it all done.

Here’s What You Should Do…

Have you noticed that since you’ve mentioned you and your partner are separating that everyone and their dog suddenly seems to know EXACTLY WHAT YOU SHOULD DO?! I hear it in conversations and see it online all the time. It usually starts with “You know what you should do?” Followed by the answer to what is clearly a rhetorical question because they already have the answer for you.

The Trap of Sweet Revenge

We can probably all admit to a time when we contemplated things we would like to do to someone who has hurt us or made us to suffer in some way. Whether it’s keying someone’s car or ruining their reputation in a Facebook rant, the idea of exacting revenge can feel sweet. In separation and divorce the need for revenge can be overwhelming! Sweet, sweet revenge!

Get Curious!

In our every day conversations we ask others a lot of “closed” questions. Closed questions are ones that only require a “yes” or “no” answer. Yes or no really doesn’t give us much information and we’re often missing out on crucial pieces of info that could help us to resolve something.