Disability, Mediation and Capacity

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Just like anyone else, people with disabilities may find themselves in various disagreements or conflicts in their daily life.  These issues may be directly related to their disability or the person may find themselves at a disadvantage because of them.  They may have tenant issues, problems with service providers, financial disputes, family conflicts, disagreements with neighbours, employment issues or difficulties with government services. 

Many people turn to mediators as a way to have a neutral person facilitate a conflict resolution process with the other party.  Unfortunately, it is not uncommon for there to be a misperception or assumption that the mediation process will not work for someone with a disability.  There may be assumptions around capacity, ability to participate and ability understand. 

However, a skilled mediator can make mediation accessible and shape it to fit the person with a disability without compromising their neutrality. 

Accommodation requires the mediator to think ahead and to try and anticipate the ways in which the individual will require adaptions throughout the process.  Someone with mobility impairments may need to be accommodated through changes to the physical space or they may not be able to attend at a traditional office.  Those with visual impairments may require translations into Braille or text to speech technology.  Individuals with hearing impairments may benefit from modified speed and volume of speech or may prefer written or visual communication.  An interpreter may be a helpful addition to the process.  Taking the lead from the individual, the mediator can make adjustments ultimately benefitting both parties with the opportunity to participate effectively in the mediation and resolve their conflict.  

Accommodating those with intellectual disabilities or autism can require more creativity, problem solving, research and training on the part of the mediator.  It may take more time for the mediator to understand the individual and their unique way of expressing and receiving information.  For these individuals, questions around capacity may arise.  Capacity can be such a vague term.  However, in the case of mediation capacity refers to the individual’s readiness to participate. This may be different than legal capacity.  What it really comes down to for the mediator is determining what needs to be done and ensuring the person can fully participate.

In some cases this may mean the individual needs to bring someone with them who can assist them to participate in the process.  In British Columbia this brings up the participation of someone named in a Representation Agreement.  An upcoming article will delve more deeply into the subject of Representation Agreements in mediation.  The simple version of this is that the individual with a disability may need to bring their Representative (often a family member or friend), in order to participate.  This can bring up issues for the other party in that they may then be interacting more with a person with whom they do not have a direct conflict.  The other party may feel there is an imbalance because it may feel like two against one.  Managing perceived or real imbalances between the parties is a key skill a mediator must possess.  All parties must feel safe, heard and understood throughout the process. 

Many positives can come out of mediation for a person with a disability.  It can provide an opportunity to resolve conflict, to learn conflict resolution skills for future use and to help them to take ownership of decisions that affect their life through meaningful participation.  In more general terms, being able to participate effectively in mediation may also contribute to challenging perceptions and assumptions others have or the individual may even hold about themselves.   With experience, research and feedback from others an inclusive process is absolutely realistic.

Get in touch to learn more about how mediation can be an inclusive process for you or someone you support.

lori@lorifrankmediation.com

250-516-4234

Questions to Ask Aging Parents

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 As parents age deeply entrenched family dynamics can come to the forefront.  It is not uncommon for this to be a time for many families where there is tension and conflict between parents and their adult children and also amongst the siblings. 

One of the best ways to prevent or minimize this potential conflict is to start those difficult conversations BEFORE there is a crisis.  When families move into crisis mode there is far more potential for arguments, hurt feelings and long term damage to relationships.

Aging parents have a lifetime of experience making decisions for themselves.  It may be difficult for them to discuss these private matters with you.  They may fear losing control or they want to maintain the appearance that they have it all together.  Be sensitive to this but don’t let it stop you from having these very important discussions. 

In Elder Mediation we find that these kinds of checklists can be really helpful to then bring to a mediator.  It helps the family group to set an agenda and move through each point.  The mediator will be there to assist with struggles in the conversation, conflicts that arise and problem solving that needs to be done.   

Discussing the future with aging parents can be a very emotional time.  Enlisting the help of an Elder Mediator can ease the challenge of difficult conversations.

With that in mind, here is a list of questions to help you get those conversations started.  This checklist will help you to lay the ground work for further conversations and help you to understand what your parents are hoping for as they grow older.  You might want to break up these conversations over a few sessions so that it is not overwhelming.

Living Arrangement

1.     How long would you like to live in your own house? 

2.     What changes need to be made to the house to make it functional and safe for you?

3.     What do you think about staying in the house if you were on your own?

4.     What would you consider to be some signs that it may not be safe to live on your own anymore?

5.     What options have you considered if you were to have a different living arrangement?  What would be the best way of exploring your options? 

Health

1.     What legal documentation do you have in place if health decisions need to be made and you are unable to communicate them?

2.     Have you thought about what kind of medical treatments you may need in the future?  Have you put those wishes in writing?

3.     How are you doing with doctor visits and keeping track of health information or medications? 

4.     How do you feel about being kept alive by more exceptional medical interventions?  Under what circumstances would you want that?  Are your wishes written down?

5.     Would a conversation with your doctor about advanced care planning be helpful?

Legal and Financial

1.     Do you have a will?  Does someone you trust know where it is?  Who should we contact about it?

2.     What have you done for financial planning?  Do you need to know more about this?

3.     What could be done to make banking easier for you?

4.     How are you currently handling paying bills?

5.     What would you like to do if there comes a time when you are not able to manage your finances?

For a free consult on Elder Mediation please get in touch!  

lori@lorifrankmediation.com

250-516-4234